Often we believe that a man will expect us to get physical from the get-go and that if we don’t, he will lose interest if it doesn’t happen right away.
Is it getting to the point where you need to have “the talk” with the guy you’re dating?
As a result, he’ll feel a whole lot better about the possibility of having a relationship if you give him a little time. Not only is this phase of dating exciting, but it also allows you time to “data date” and collect the information you need to determine if he’s boyfriend material AND someone you want to be in a relationship with. We always want you to invite us in after a first date, but we secretly hope you’ll say no. As scary as it may seem to talk to your man about not seeing other people, it’s even scarier to just assume he isn’t seeing other people. Let them show up and show you how much they’re interested!
If you want to show a man that you’re girlfriend material, don’t hook up with him on the first date. If you’re consistently calling, texting, emailing, and doing all the asking out, a man won’t have to lift a finger. This is not to say that you can’t ever reach out to a man you’re dating, but let him do the asking out — at least in the early stages. You deserve someone who wants to reach out to you, call you, and ask you out. Words are helpful, and you should use them sometimes. Try something like, “You know, I’d really like not to see other people. ” If he gives you an answer you aren’t looking for, buh-bye.
Here, Christian Carter explains why trying to force a man into a commitment never works…and how to set things up right from the start so he’s the one asking you for exclusivity.