Most recently, “sapiosexual”—from “sapiens,” the Latin word for wise—received the official imprimatur of OKCupid, which added a new set of gender and sexual orientation options late last year.The history of “sapiosexuality” is as unclear as its legitimacy.
Even asexuality has given rise to a shared sense of identity or community on the Asexuality Visibility & Education Network (AVEN) and other Internet message boards although its status as a sexual orientation is still under debate in psychological circles.
But sapiosexuality neither describes the gender(s) to which you are attracted to nor does it form the basis of any meaningful community—unless you count a Facebook group that posts lots of grammar memes.
While some users who list “sapiosexual” as their orientation on OKCupid say that they are looking for “everyone,” for example, most specify a preferred gender or select an additional sexual orientation option. In other words, it would be just as easy to write “...
you are smart” under the standard “You should message me if ...” profile question as it would be to self-label as sapiosexual.
In the late ’90s and early aughts, we collectively endured the “metrosexual,” a completely unnecessary term for a man who shaves and dares to have a few pastels in his wardrobe.