Many of my patients have asked me when it is appropriate for them to find out crucial information about someone they are thinking of continuing to date.
They want to know early on if they should invest the time and energy that a quality relationship requires.
Those disappointments often result in frustration and sadness.
Following are ten questions that are often successful initiators of a strong beginning, along with some explanations and examples.
As you go through them, explore what your own reactions and answers would be were you to be on the other end of someone who is looking for the same kind of genuine intimacy.
There are many things you could ask that would gain you the information you need, but there are ten potent and successful data gathering questions that successfully begin the process of really knowing who someone is.
Because they are deeply intimate inquiries, it is also important that you approach your potential partner from authentic curiosity and a love of mutual exploration.
Instead, they will talk about why their request is important to them, or offer to negotiate by giving something in return.