was interested in things beyond “candlelit dinners and sunset walks on the beach.” I read his amusing and engaging profile (and the photo wasn’t bad), and my intuition said, “This could be the one.” I sent him a simple greeting and asked what movies and types of music he liked (those and political leanings are my litmus test).A flurry of emails led to a lively — and encouraging — phone conversation, which led to plans to meet for lunch a few days after Thanksgiving.So, despite how attracted I was to him, I just couldn't bring myself to take that ultimate step.
It took a few weeks until he revealed that he was renting a room at a "sailing buddy's" house, which is why he never invited me over.
After three months of dating but still not having met any of his friends or relatives, I started to see red flags.
My hormone levels had clearly dropped off, and I hadn’t been feeling as sexually … (MORE: The New Midlife Dating Question: What's Your Credit Score?
) A New Set of Dating Requirements Because I'm no longer a raging hormonal machine (in either the pre- or menopausal way), my rational mind has a much larger say in my choice of a partner than in my past.
I'm not sure what changes menopause has brought, and, even more importantly,” I continued in what felt like one long run-on sentence, “I am frightened that physical intimacy might ruin our great friendship.” What I didn’t admit was that I wasn’t sure I was “all in” just yet.