(The highly misogynistic nature of a few of the comments suggests that at least a few male readers were I’d leave the men alone.) But now that blog is here. Men are somewhat different than women when it comes to cheating, and a lot of that difference arises from the fact that men tend to define infidelity rather loosely.
I remind them that in an effort to meet their own less than empathic sexual agenda, they have undermined their personal integrity while simultaneously dismissing their partner’s right to know that their relationship rulebook has been unilaterally revised.
Rather than debating the nature of "being male” with such clients, which is hardly productive from a therapeutic standpoint, I remind them that when a man makes a vow of monogamy to a spouse or significant other, and then breaks that vow, he is in violation of a relationship contract.
I further discuss with them the idea that infidelity is not defined by any specific act (sexual or otherwise), but rather by .
In a previous post I wrote about some of the reasons women might choose to be sexual outside of their primary relationship.
Judging from some of the comments that post received, a number of readers thought I might be ignoring the other half of the equation—men who cheat.